A checkpoint in life.

Humans are a social species. Our life will include either one or more of these elements, which are:


• Family
• Friends
• Teachers
• Strangers
• Leaders
• Enemies
• Acquaintances


We can never be separate from having social relationships with other humans. For those that do, we can see an unusual and an unnatural pattern of lifestyle. When does life begin? Life here not being the moment you start breathing, but rather ,‘living’ , if you get what i mean.

We (most of the human species) don’t remember anything during our infancy. We barely remember our early childhood. We start remembering during mid-late childhood and further on our adolescence and young adulthood. So when do we start living? We may say that it’s our late childhood to adolescence/young adulthood that we really start living. Is it because we enjoyed that particular part of our life or because it remained in our memory?

When something gains momentum, it is bound to lose momentum. This is the common idea or thought among the society. So let’s say, you enjoyed life, you had many friends, went to many places, met many people, had a love life, had your heart broken, achieved great things, fall the worst falls imaginable, it sure sounds like the climax of your life. So when does it slow down?

Correct me if i’m wrong, because this may be my personal opinion, but i think that nowadays, people usually think that when it slows down, it’s time to settle down with marriage. That’s the common idea among the people of society today. Yet lately, we can see many people not wanting to settle down, and instead opted for a “let’s live together/let’s be whatever we want to be when we want to be” kind of life. In a way, marriage and family slowly seeps out of the question.

The ‘coupling’ phenomena is quite rampant nowadays. Blame me for being a human and always think of negative things, whatever, but this is reality. The impact of this? Intimate/sexual relations out of wedlock = unwanted pregnancy = abortion/ stressful life thinking how to manage the baby and life = the guy getting freaked out and probably escape one way or another = well this can go on forever. Basically it’ll lead to the breakdown of society. Even if we say “hey look at so and so. They’re doing okay” . Well, i’m sure there are exceptions to generalizations, but the people that can’t manage it like those successful ones do, will have a first impression/look on them, and want to try it out as well, whether they realize it or not, even when they’re not ready/can’t manage such things and in the end it will be DISASTER MAN.

In a sense, when these things happen, women trust men less and less , and men will disregard and disrespect women. Blablabla society breaks down. Homos and Lesbos will ‘suddenly’ pop out of nowhere.


SO ANYWAY..to me, getting married MAY be a point of slowing and settling down and have a family and kids n whatnot..but, life can also be MORE exciting when the adventure STARTS , ONCE you get married. But it doesn’t usually heypeyn nowadays... HOW COME? Because ‘kids’ nowadays give it ‘their all’ even when not in wedlock, or they may not even THINK about it. When someone mentions marriage OH WOW WOW WOW...SLOWW DOWN THERE KIDDO...RELAX...chill..have some popcorn...mm.. and panic starts to fill the mind, especially for males, USUALLY for males.

It has become our culture , in a way. How about getting to know the person of interest a little bit, and more from people the person knows/friends of the person, and LATER ON get to know the person better, more intimately, freely and legally. For muslims, it’s like being together and all, the halal way. It’ll be beautiful, if we do it right.No holds barred. You have the right to do so!...mmm... Just like how ‘couples’ go on trips and go on dates, why not with your wife? Have an adventure! About kids , i’m sure this can be managed by family planning(there are many ways.don’t just think of ‘that’ thing -_-) . And once you’re ready, bring your kids along! Show them the world besides studying and learning and working and making money.


But of course, before getting married, it is the male’s responsibility to make sure that both of them can lead a manageable life,especially in financial aspects. The female can help too , of course, he IS her husband. Both the guy and girl can work together. You just have to know when to give and take. But the primary responsibility rests on the male. That’s why, related to my previous post, guys , you better not mess up. But don’t be afraid to try. Belum cuba belum tau kan? Heh.pandai cakap mamat ni..anyway, yeah. Try not to mess up. Try your best, to give the best, but of course, you must realize the priorities in life first. There are many checkpoints in life. It is our choice whether we want to ‘check’ ourselves or not, to reflect on ourselves and to keep improving ourselves.


If you’re wondering why i’ve been talking alot about these things, i think it’s due to the quite substantial exposure to these issues by lecturers and friends and maybe my own experience in the past year. So yeah. I am old now. 19. An old man.(note:MAN) lol. Thanks for the birthday wishes. If you forgot, don’t worry. I don’t take birthdays to heart =) ..cheh..maybe as excuse because i myself don’t really wish others.. well, i’m just trying to make a point¸to those who freak out when they forgot to wish someone, that it’s okay. Don’t worry. It’s such a small thing to worry about. We’ll die one day anyway. Lol.


My finals start next Monday, 8th of February. Arabic first. Mmm. I’ll be done with foundation by 22nd February, psychology paper. And then i’ll be back for about 3 months plus i think. JB. I think this is the first time i really feel like going back home. Mmm.. ape ni orang tua rindu kampong..hahahah. anak mak la katakan...kan? heh...This world is truly a test.....


In the end, have faith in The Almighty God. He will not burden His people with something which they cannot bear. And His mercy far encompasses His wrath. If we were to count the blessings He has given us, never will be able to count them. Look at everything in the heavens and the earth, do you not see His magnificence? For He is with the patient ones. Therefore, be patient, for whatever He takes from you , He will replace it with something better. If you avoid getting what you want in the haram way , He will give it to you in the halal way .. =)



Think and reflect. A reminder to myself before others. Let us all pray for each other, so that today, we will be better than yesterday, and tomorrow, we will be better than today , insyaAllah, if God wills it. Amin

Humility is the key.

Which came first, the chicken or the egg? Ha jawab jawab.lol



~Assalaamu'alaikum~

Responsibility.

Sense of responsibility and duty. What do they mean to us? Responsibility towards what? Duty to whom?

According to the scout's oath,

Duty to God, King and Country

Well, for those who do not believe in God, I'm sure they still have a sense of duty to a certain entity, be it material or not.

For us students, and as children of our parents, we are bound by the duty to our studies as students, and to our parents as their children. I'm not saying that these are the only duties that we have( more like I have..for now), but let's talk about it first.

Duty to our parents, from the islamic perspective, is to obey them, not to hurt their feelings in anyway, as long as they do not force you to obey them committing sin. In a sense, nowadays, most parents want their children to be successful and lead a happy life with minimal hardships as possible, usually material hardships..finances and etc. Therefore, they want us to do our best in our studies so that hopefully, we will get a stable job and then have our own family etc.

Ok now let's move on our duties as a student. We bear the responsibility of doing our best in our studies, get good grades yada yada yada..Bring the name of our education institute to greater heights..and all those things..Sometimes all the nonsense we get from the admin and staff, makes us want to rebel..But hey, endure the crap for now, so that we can change things later..sounds good to me..but it's easier said than done.

We also have our responsibility towards other people, the society and the country in general. We must respect each other, work together, try and ensure the maintenance of stability in the society and country..basically, do our part.

Now when it gets personal, as in our responsibility towards individuals, this is where most problems originate from.When we ignore this responsibility, it will just cause tension among the people around us..Which is not fun, trust me..and possibly, it will cause chain reactions to the bigger clusters of the people, which are the society, and eventually the country..and maybe even the world.

What makes us, and many others, to ignore their responsibility? Is it for the greater good? Or just plain desire? The purpose of prohibitions in laws and religion is to guide us in curbing certain desires. Curbing does not mean deny and ignore, it means for us to be able to control it whenever necessary.

Teenagers nowadays, everywhere , one of the main reasons they ignore their duty is due to emotional turbulences(?) , whether it is a relationship between friends, or people who they are attracted to( which is the case most of the time). They somehow chose desire over duty, get bad grades( some do get good grades), disrespect their parents and eventually rebel towards anything that is an obstacle to what they want to do. In the end, things don't work out, and they get too emotional , just as how they were when it began. Extreme beginnings will cause extreme ends. Just my opinion.

This part, is directed to the male species (including me..lol) , we are supposed to be the protectors of the weak and also the female species,not saying that in a negative way, but it's a fact. That's how it should be. But nowadays, it's the other way around. We tend to be the predators and crocodiles. It's like , who are the people supposed to trust now? The people that the weak and females are supporting are the very people who prey on them. Who are they to rely on? Extreme injustice will cause extreme measures to be taken. I hope that you guys can see the relation , but the symptom to this disease is the breakdown of society we see today. The root?

Desire over duty

Everything should be in moderation..Desire AND duty. Too obsessed with duty will also cause negative effects. We shouldn't deny desire, yet we shouldn't neglect duty.



So, to all males , I know it's nice to have a significant other, but rather than blaming the situation and the other person for any mishaps that occur, try and look at yourself, and your duty towards the more important things, and why did you choose desire over responsibility.I'm not saying that it's impossible that the other party is without fault, but whats the use of pointing out the mistakes of others if we do not reflect on ourselves?


Reflect..remember..realize..which of our responsibilities are priority..


A reminder to myself before others...All the best in your daily endeavours my fellow humans.

(quite a poorly arranged post i think..=_= )

ciao cincau


Wassalaam.Peace be upon you.

Sometimes...

..small things, give life its true meaning.

The clouds we see when we're outside.

The greneery, plants and trees that are ever so vibrant.

The river flowing, the waterfall 'falling'..lol..water.Giving life to dwellers of the earth.

The majesty of hills and mountains.

The ever furious yet gentle sea.

Wind, blowing in our face as we embrace the fresh air.

Rain, washing away the dirt and filth .

The birds that chirp and sing around us.

Family members, smiling and laughing together.

Children that smile and play around outside.

Babies that smile and giggle when you play with them.

A group of people working together , hand in hand, with smiles on their faces that overshadow the tiredness and pain.

The pure love,kindness,affection and thoughtfulness of someone for another human being and other creatures on earth.


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but now,what we usually see, are...


Dark clouds in the horizon, carrying torrential rain and thunderstorms.

Forests and trees destroyed, for the profit of man, or to make ridiculously large homes, whilst destroying the homes of the creatures living in the forest.

Polluted rivers , waterfalls bringing down trash and waste.

Mountains and hills levelled, so that man can satisfy their 'needs'..or more like greed.

The sea, now tainted with pollution and blood of its dwellers, ever so furious, wreaking havoc upon those who abuse it.

The air, dirty , filled with smoke and harmful gases.

Acid rain, bringing sickness and harm to mankind.

Crows feeding upon wasted food and rotten flesh.Birds in cages, their freedom taken away from them.

Family members that constantly argue, cold with each other, who find comfort and security from alcohol, drugs, parties , women and the like.

Babies that cry , sad, because they are born in such a world, rotting and decaying.

People only caring about themselves, every man for himself. Ever so envious of others, ever so greedy.

The cruelty, oppression, and unjust actions of humans towards their own species! Their own people!

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Where has all the beauty of life gone to? Why is the world rotting and decaying at such an unbelievable pace? Why are people destroying and polluting the elements that ensure their survival and life? Why are people killing each other for greed, selfishness and envy..?

Ya Allah, what is happening to us? What have we done to deserve this?

Well, we don't need Allah to tell us why we deserve it, we have been getting signs and warnings for so long! From the scripture, and from nature itself! Why are we so blind? The things that we are getting now are the result of our actions! Yet why are we so ignorant and arrogant? Why is it so difficult for us to see and accept that we have wronged others, and most importantly, ourselves?

Where is the love? where is kindness? where is sincerity?

It's time to open up our eyes. It's time to move our limbs. It's time to make a difference. Together, as the inheritors of the earth, and for the future generation. Why not us? Why not now? Why not here?


Think about it.

A reminder to myself , before others.

Wallahua'lam.

Wassalaam and thank you for reading. Comments and criticism are always welcome. Just abide by ethics and politeness.


~Ciao cincau~

Reminder - Reloaded.

I was told(taught in class) that 80% of our communication is non-verbal. Since 20% of it consists of words, the other 80% consists of facial expressions, smell, other sound, things that we can sense using our 5 senses. Doesn't have to be words. That's how some people can sort of 'read minds'. Well anyway, I tested this theory during the PC Fair, a simple one . I am annoyed and irritated by the promoters that chase u around with those flyers that people throw away anyway. So i just made a nasty face, like someone just pooped on my laptop and ran away with it kind of face. Amazingly, not ONE approached me. I had a hard time trying not to laugh.lol. noob promoters..XD


Ok well , I guess a little update on what's going on in my life is in order.....where shall I start......

Ah, my new class...well, I've started to get to know my classmates, they're quite a nice bunch I guess. The lecturers are fine, but the subjects this semester are abit heavier in the sense that there are more things to do, like assignments. I've met quite a few new friends this semester..interesting ..mm.

Oh, I did join the sports and martial arts carnival..entered sort of sparring competition..didnt go well, but sure was satisfying..hahahaha..noobhai going into the ring...I actually won two rounds for free!

I'm going thru my midsem exams..and it's one week holiday right now..so all in all, quite an interesting half semester..oh and i did buy some new..'tools'..heh..so..let's move on


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As an observer of society (cheweyh!) , I noticed that teenagers ,around my age especially, is constantly engulfed and sometimes drowned with emotions..all sorts of emotions, but the one i'm going to talk about here is basically what THEY call , 'love'.

Now, when you like someone, how would you know? is it because of the person's looks? or cutish nature? intelligence? kindness? How would you know that you like someone? of course , u'd be infatuated and everytime you see the person, your heart beats faster than usual. initially, u'd feel like wanting to have the person present with u at all times, or something along those lines.

Now, for a guy, I'd be lying if I said looks didnt matter, but of course, it shouldnt be the main guideline or benchmark on evaluating or judging a female person.We should realize and remember that looks are superficial. It will fade away one day, so there's no point if the only thing u're attracted to is their looks, because once the looks go away, your feelings will go away too. That is IF it didnt go away even when the looks are still there.

Teenagers often get confused between 'like' or infatuation , and 'love'..I'm not saying I know what love really feels like, but I'm sure that infatuation isn't love, and that many teenagers are confused abt this without them realizing it. I myself have experienced this. meh..and if we indulge in it, it makes us want to do things, like have a relationship n whatnot.which, in many cases nowadays, die out..why? I have no definite answer. So i'll let you people think n try to relate it with your experiences and knowledge.

So, the main question here, what is love? I THINK, u feel love, when u want to take care of that person, and if anything bad happens to the person, u'd feel uneasy and u want to help ease the load on the person's shoulders..now, this doesn't mean the love u see on tv between couples, im talking about love towards anyone..your family, friends, even your spouses..so, for those of you having love problems with your 'couple', dont come to me for help..I dont know much.hah.

So, I think, coupling, is not recommended IMO, and it is haram in Islam. Why I don't think it's recommended,is because the couples we see nowadays , they share almost everything, even some , more than husbands n wives! premaarital sexual relations become rampant. more problems for the society..more breakups in the end..girls will lose trust in boys..vice versa..the very essence of society, the people, is breaking down..well, just my two cents, but try and hold it in, until u can get married.maybe tell the person that u want to marry her, or him, but usually her cuz guys tend to propose.mmm...and then resist any improper relations..most likely after marriage, its gona be beautiful.

Imagine, knowing almost everything abt someone, then marrying the person..the discovery of mysteries is close to none..so in a sense, it sort of dilutes the excitement in marriage..the new things that we might discover, experience together.and it's a much stronger bond than some couple relationship..its a fact , reality, and you know it.

Marriage, is truly a beautiful thing i'm sure, but if u want to compare the marriages we see and hear about nowadays, it may seem that it's overrated.because many are doing it wrong. they built it upon brittle foundation, and so whatever they build, it'll be shaky and risky.. that's why many marriages nowadays don't work out. you don't have to share every single thing, but some things wud be much more enjoyable and fun if you do it together. say, travel, or learn something together.

Have faith in The Creator, The Lord of the Universe, for He understands us, understands our desire to love and to be loved, so we should abide by what He has preordained for us , the guidelines He has provided us. Hopefully, the love we have between His creations will increase our love and faith for Him.


Well, honestly, I don't sense much quality in this post.I'm not good at these things..>_>

But it is one of the things that I think about occasionally. Just to share with you guys... so, yeah.let us use our intellect and think.have a nice day.

p/s: opinions and thoughts/comments are highly appreciated =)


~ciao cincau~


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Ok this is an update one day after the post. Actually , I think there isn't much quality in this post because I didn't have much 'feel' while writing it, and that I just want to get this post over and done with. Thanks to my friend(s) that pointed it out and reminded me about it. So yeah..for extra clarity regarding this post, please read below.. :)


"go for the middle way..sederhana..u barge in marry a stranger, there're gona be some reli huge challenges cuz u dont know the person and u might end up not liking the person at all...yet if u go overboard in knowing the person, it will also bring negative effects
there are many ways that u can find out those information from...say, the person's friends..family..teachers..the people he/she mixes around with..of course from the person him/herself is possible too
but of course, u have to always stay in the middle and not go overboard
especially in this modern era
u not knowing the person at all and marrying the person is almost out of d question
so, get to know the person personally, make friends n etc would be okay..but there are boundaries and one musnt cross these boundaries so that proper order the security can be maintained"

"nak keluar kena ada mahram, nak bebual/chat/sms pun jgn la lebih2 especially benda yg x penting..bukan kata gerenti wont work out, just dat more chance of problems in d future..or maybe nt problems, but the purity and the sweetness of marriage might be jeapordised"

well, still messy. I will summarize it and tidy it up in the future insyaAllah. I hope it is clearer now.

any mistakes are from me, and any benefit from this post is from Allah s.w.t.



wassalaam.
~ciao cin xi~

Two sides of the same coin.

I've tasted all classes now. So far no bitterness in the lecturers. Good sign.
However, most of the subjects encourages seriousness, or atleast serious focus to understand and process the subjects.

Being the already serious person, this makes my brain feel extra compressed and more veins pop out. especially when thinking in class. last sem sure didnt feel like this.what i felt then, maybe part of it is this serious, not most/all of it.
Not that I don't like it, but maybe it's something which will push my mind to certain limits, or sharpen it more atleast.

However, I don't know why, in my arabic class, I'm like, carefree, a talkalot, makes lame jokes. More fun and happening. More cheerful. Maybe it's due to the people in the class, almost all of them are people whom I've known since last sem, but even then, my arabic class last sem was also quite fun. Maybe learning languages uses less brain processing power like critical thinking, and it's also interesting.

In my other classes, most of them i DONT know. I'm bad with strangers. It will either take some time for us (me and most of d class) to get to know each other, or most still won't know me by the end of the sem. =)

When that's the case, I have no other side to show except the 'working' side. The other side is being kept somewhere, and now there's a boulder covering the entrance. So some time is needed to get it out of the way. Either way, it's interesting to observe the people in my class and how they interact with people, new and old, with lecturers. They're quite different from my old class.



We'll see...we'll see...

Ape punya nasib...

Ade ke patot org dalam jamban, roommate semua kunci pintu bilik dgn study room? terpaksa pinjam kain pelekat dak bilik lain nak g solat jumaat..=______=..nasib baik tak panic..ade kang uia kena repair pintu..haha

The Heart.

The Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) said: “Know that there is a piece of meat in a human body. When it is good, then the body is good but when it is bad, then the body will become bad. The piece of meat is our heart.” (Bukhari and Muslim)



We all have a heart. Literally and abstract. We feel emotions, sometimes they're good, sometimes they're bad. We don't like what we feel all the time. However, sometimes our heart is cold and hard, we don't accept emotions nor do we express them. One way to look at it, we're afraid. Afraid that our heart might get hurt just like the many cases we see today.

The thing is, one of the most important things in sorting out our feelings, in my opinion, is to not let the hormones do the thinking. Be patient, fight the hormones, and let your heart and intellect choose what is right. Intellect-wise being , use as many guidance as possible, reliable ones of course, don't try and think about all or your brain's gona get fried. And the aspect of the heart, do not suppress your feelings, but rather, let it flow into your life, body, mind and soul.

The thing that we do need to control and many times suppress, is our actions, and we need guidance to tell us what is proper and what is not. Trying to suppress feelings and emotions is something, I think, is against human nature, to want to love and to be loved in return. To differentiate between love and lust/hormones, is very important, because you'll be going towards two different things, that can cause significantly different huge impacts in the lives of others. So don't fool around.

Hurting someone's heart is as sinful as any other sin, and you'll need the person to forgive you, for God will give the wronged one his/her due rights.


And anytime you feel the pain, hey jude, refrain,
Dont carry the world upon your shoulders.
For well you know that its a fool who plays it cool
By making his world a little colder.

taken from Hey Jude, by The Beatles.

To be able to change the world with love, is better than to be able to do it with solitude and coldness. Rather than fighting and suppressing our nature, learn to tap into its potentials and bring out its best.

Guard your heart, not by building walls and forts to hide it, but rather, embrace the light with it, so that darkness will never prevail. Guard its purity, for it is like a lake , where our senses are like rivers , and what we indulge ourselves with our senses, is the water flowing into the lake. Do not pollute the lake which is pure, with dirty things, things that we see, we hear, we say, we eat, we do. No one's perfect, but atleast put in some effort, your heart will appreciate it , and God-Willing,insyaAllah, He will fill your heart with light, that no other existence can take away from you. Know how to filter the dirt from reaching your heart, strive for it, fight for it, it is a battle within.

A reminder to myself first, and to others as well.




~a melted lake , in the alaskan wilderness~